How many times have you said this to yourself: "I'll never do that again!"
Did you follow that by giving yourself "a good talking to" and/or by depriving yourself of something you wanted as a "consequence" to make sure you never make that mistake again?
Have you heard anyone else say something like that to themselves? Or have you ever told someone else they'd better not make that mistake again? Or punished someone for their mistake? Maybe slammed a door or yelled at them or gave them the silent treatment perhaps? Fired them?
Did any of that really work? Or did that mistake or something similar happen again later, despite your (or their) best efforts?
Why is that? Is it just unwillingness to learn from the mistake, or rebelliousness? Or what?
What if the "common sense" approach to dealing with mistakes is all wrong?
Many people grow up believing things like:
and committed violent trespass while our elected representatives were processing the Electoral College votes.
Today’s events did not just happen in a vacuum.
For a mob to rise up, there must be provocation, regardless of whether it be real, perceived or imagined. There must be extreme grievance, usually for an extended period of time. There must be a perception that there is little alternative to be heard other than to rise up. Peaceful protests become mob riots only when the conditions are ripe.
We can debate who is to blame, who is responsible for what and who should be tried and punished. No doubt that will all happen soon enough.
1. Democracy is a shared agreement, a context for our relationships with each other. We do not construct democracy alone. It is something we must do together, actively, not just once, but day after day after day.
2. Democracies survive when they...